Emotional Fitness Gym Work Out Area

To begin your workout simply click any of the workout areas below and choose your workouts from the list provided.

Deal with stress, anxiety, panic attacks, worry, depression...

Survival - Perspective workouts

Build positive self esteem

Engagement - People workouts

Build positive relationships

Achievement - Purpose workouts

Achieve the life you want

Reward - Pleasure workouts

Overcome negative habits

Control - Power workouts

Overcome anger / control issues

Harmony - Peace workouts

Enjoy your life

General workouts

 

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Control Instinct - Power workouts

Most of us are familiar with the idea of control. Our early years are dominated by it in one form or another. Direction, advice, guidance, opinions, thoughts, persuasion, cajoling, insistence, and so on from parents, guardians, siblings peers and countless others. From the moment we are old enough to act with independence we are expected to conform to rules and social norms imposed by others and we soon learn to use rules based on our own concept of right and wrong. Control is the means by which adults condition children to abide by rules and the basis upon which organisations and governments impose order and the rule of law within communities. Some people learn to use control as a weapon to protect their sense of self or to exploit others in order to fuel their own desire for ego driven self satisfaction.

Our control instinct exists to protect our security, creating a sense of ownership and competitiveness so that we can defend what is ours, including our beliefs and values as well as our possessions. When people are in control they feel confident and secure but when they lose control they can get angry and defensive, especially when challenged. Balance is essential. Too much confidence and we can become too demanding and controlling and too much anger and everything becomes a battle in which we take out our anger on others.

People with powerful control instincts can find it extremely difficult to compromise or let go. They can be extremely competitive and whilst competition is healthy, obsessive competitiveness can be destructive, ego driven and selfish, driven by a desire to achieve only one outcome - getting their own way. People with a strong Control Instinct can become dependent on feelings of power to reinforce their sense of self and this can lead to them trying to impose themselves, their beliefs, values, rules and expectations on others, often accompanied by a strong sense of righteousness or intolerance of injustice. People with strong Control Instincts can also suffer from obsessive compulsions, experiencing a sense of added security and comfort from repeating minor actions over and over again.

The aim of the workouts provided here is to help people review the nature of their relationship with POWER and practice greater patience, tolerance and anger control .

As with all aspects of Emotional Fitness, repetition and consistency are the keys to getting the results you want.

Power workouts

  1. Measure and control your anger >>
    Helps you to recognise and control your anger
  2. How to communicate frustration >>
    A guide to expressing pent up frustration
  3. Recognise your rules and expectations >>
    Helps you to stop controlling other people
  4. Track your rules and expectations My rules / expectations record >>
    A simple tool to track how you apply rules / expectations
  5. Dealing with obsessive compulsions >>
    How to cope with obsessive thoughts and behaviours
  6. Stop - start guide >>
    Simple things you can stop and start doing to balance your control instinct
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